Sunday Scaries: Glow Up Chronicles

Happy Sunday! People say that you glow differently when you’re loved differently and that’s true. However when it comes to being loved differently there are many elements to consider. For today’s Sunday Scaries let’s talk about self love and how to add more of it into this week.

You’re Glowing

I love to hear when people say that I’m glowing. Trust me after many years of self doubt and self sabotage it’s a welcoming comment. My lifestyle wasn’t always as welcoming to a glow up. From speaking negative about myself and situations around me I was definitely a Debbie Downer.

A Debbie Downer is someone who legit brings everyone around him or her down. It you say the sky is blue, they would say things like I don’t see it or it’s as blue as my soul feels. Being as blue as your soul feels can be a true statement. They don’t fix the blueness in their soul but simply pushes their issues onto others. That was me. Always disengaged and a drought to anyone and everyone.

Glowing and Past Trauma

Trauma comes in many forms. Some People’s traumas are on full display. When you speak to them you can’t help but understand the depth of pain they have gone through. There are some traumas that seem so unattached that it’s hard to see. It can come out in many forms. For instance I didn’t realize my trauma until I had my first child. Simply hugging or kissing her became hard. I was in a negative mindset and had birthed the happiest baby in the world.

Accountability and Glowing

In order to heal you have to take accountability. This is hard especially when you have or feel wronged in a way. However although we can’t go back to change the things that took place in our lives our responses will always be held accountable. It’s not your fault that bad things happen but it’s our part in not dumping on others. I was a dumper. Another part of my accountability was not running towards drama.

Drama felt comfortable. I could always hide behind a past issue. However If I’m honest I always knew I needed to check me. I wasn’t always sure how. I know I talk about therapy a lot but it was a great tool for me. It’s not the only tool. Using other tools like meditation, self care, phone apps, and more can be helpful.

Glowing and Sunday Scaries

Sunday I love to move slower. In that slowness I find time to reflect. In my reflection I take honest movement towards the fact that there are areas that I’ve been failing in. There are areas that I need to challenge myself in. I make a weekly plan to achieve my goals. So I encourage you to do the same. Glowing comes from inner work. It’s not something you can buy in a bottle. Glow as you glow from the inside out.

Weekly Glow up Activities

Here are a few ways in which I apply challenges to work on my insides:

• Journal prompts that challenge me and make me think
• Listening to podcast that deal with topics that I struggle or have struggled with
• Meetings with my therapist
• Accountability partners that don’t include my unhealed friends
• Book reading from people who have done the work I want to do
• Mentors that will call me out when necessary
• Daily affirmations
• Music selections that bring out the best in my moods and more

This is a small listing but mostly the things that I do to do the “work.” Also keep in mind healing isn’t linear. There are many times when there are ups and downs. Remember setbacks are bound to happen. Accept it and don’t let the setbacks take over. Accept your flaws but don’t let them stay that way. Be honest for the things that you need. Those needs may be to eliminate folks temporarily or permanently. Peace is priceless but keep in mind if you’re honest you too may be the issue.

We look at others being problematic until we realize how much we too may need to be the one that steps back, apologizes, and more! Happy Sunday and prepare your Sunday for a successful week!