Sunday Message: Get Off the Dating Ride

Now I love a good roller coaster and the same can be said in dating. I’m the one that talks all the mess until that click sound of the last incline and you know it’s about to drop! Relationships  especially toxic relationships are a whirlwind so we have to move forward wisely.  Dating, marriage or even engaged has their ups and downs.  However with a good ride you know that it will end…

Round and Around It Goes-Dating Chronicles

Anyone else hearing Jonell featuring Method Man and Redman’s song?! No?! Just me! Completely fine! However one thing about round abouts you only have but so many options. Isn’t it funny how we attempt to make more out of nothing especially when we know where we are getting ourselves into? It’s like a cat or dog that chases their tail expecting something else to happen! How long are you gonna get sick off this ride where you know certain folks aren’t tall enough to ride? You don’t sense the danger yet? Relationships whether dating or marriage can be tricky.

Not Tall Enough

Height requirements are for the safety of all the riders. Yet here we are allowing the folks who aren’t tall enough to ride. Before my physically height challenged get all in their feels…tall includes the ones who don’t mean you well, the ones who come to take and never give, and those who rob you of your peace. The height requirement is already posted in your heart yet in order to appease others you switch it up! Why? They surely aren’t! Leave your requirements untouched.  This goes regardless of a platonic relationship or romantic one as well.

Stuck Ride

I don’t know about you but some of these free rides I’ve allowed I could write whole books. When I was a kid (adult too) I used to dread the day I would get on the ride and it would get stuck. Thankfully that didn’t happen at least physically. Mentally and emotionally I’ve been on some rides that almost took me all the way out! I lost myself and was stuck mentally and emotionally. It cost so much but at the time we think we can handle it and find out much later that we can’t!

Thrill Seeking-Dating Advice

Isn’t the whole point of the ride to be a quick few moments of pure adrenaline?! It feels like the whole world stops at every drop and loop. Can you imagine living like that every single day? I can and remember the times I did. I can’t be the only one who remember those days when you didn’t wake up in your own bed. The days you were so sick to your stomach from alcohol (or drugs-if that was your vice). The days where you get caught up with a man or woman and the whole thing be full of drama and inconsistencies. All of these thrills be fleeting. Some of us get off eventually and come to our senses but not everyone is so fortunate.

End of the Ride

So everyone will either get off the ride or put folks off the ride in their own time. I know I got off the ride or started the process when I became a mom. Some don’t wait that long. Some get off the ride when they get sick of being sick and tired. Like I was taught you can be one or the other and nothing will happen. However when you get to both-change is imminent. This could be the warning you needed. You might not be living on the edge of destruction but you could be loving your way to destruction. You could be spending your way to destruction. You can be eating your way to destruction.

Vices

We all have a vice or two. It’s up to us to figure what they are and take control of them so it doesn’t take control of us. What’s your vice?! Do an internal thought. It could be the biggest or the smallest vice that if left alone can cause issues in other areas. The “it’s no big deal” vices are the slow deviants that really wreck shop! So let’s all take stock of them and step away! If in a relationship or a vice that needs ending-do it now. The longer it goes the more toxic its gonna be. Let’s end this ride now!

Happy Sunday! Just a little something to make you think! Have a good one and a better week!