Happy Sunday to you all! What an entire week last week was. We have made it through 2 weeks of virtual learning. I haven’t even wined through it as much as I thought. If anything it’s been more stressful trying to manage adult tasks than the children tasks. However we are doing it! That is a victory!
No Regrets: Sunday Truths
For today’s Sunday Motivation I was thinking of some of the hard hit lessons I’ve learned. There are many. Today’s lesson is about separating yourself from bad vibes. This means when you have the sense through words and most definitely actions that the people in your life are really aren’t for you, separate yourself. I thought about the many times I stayed entangled with people to save face. Boy the amount of years I wasted made no sense.
Normalize Matching Energy
I mean I know we should take the high road. However we need to normalize meeting people where they are. I’m thinking about the people I now limit their seat in my life. They are rows and rows behind the people who support me. They are rows and rows behind the folks that I can call on and answer. I remember the story of a man who was having a wedding. Instead of telling people it was a wedding he invited people over to help. When the crowd and it was limited, came it wasn’t a big crowd. He got married in front of that crowd. What’s the point? We all have lives but it’s something about the day ones that show you their love than the ones who simple say it without action. He got a lot of folks that said “aww man had I known it was for a wedding I would have been there.” That’s just one example of how people do.
Energy Matters
I thought about my move to Philly. In February it will be 10 years. It’s been beautiful overall. However I thought about the decisions or movement I should have done during those early years. The moves I should have made. The people I should have said “this ain’t worth it!” I haven’t always been on the up and up. People should have matched my energy too. Some did. I understand it and move accordingly.
People Pleasing
However that people pleasing mood that I had in the beginning allowed me to stay connected to people I later found talked bad about me while taken from me. They didn’t have an issue eating at my table but also didn’t even like me. I’m talking about folks who invited me to something out of respect for my husband, or wanted the kids there but didn’t want me there. Energy matters. I’m not about to entertain folks at my expense. So now I don’t allow none of them access to me. If you see or find out about something good it will be long after it’s done. It would be after I posted if I even post about it. No front seat access!! Reserve that space for folks that are genuinely about you!
Front Row Space: Sunday Chronicles
Think about it from this perspective. If you go to a concert how much are you willing to pay? If it’s an artist I love it’s no question I’ll drop that money. Give the same type of energy to others. If they wanted to be apart of your life they would be. It would be a disservice to them to not be in it! They would show up and show out. Even in a pandemic they would call, text, and make sure you are good. We all have a lot going on and I tend to believe when people have life happening it can be a lot. Some may be floundering and can’t tap in. However it’s folks that even if a pandemic wasn’t going on would be showing you their disinterested but we still invite them to the table because of their titles. Not here and neither should you. Stop giving front access to ain’t got it people.
Ain’t Got It
These are the folks ain’t got your back. That’s why it’s nothing for them to drop your name and entertain others with gossip because they ain’t loyalty. Ain’t got integrity. That’s why it’s easy for them to take from you because they been the type who was selfish. I actually had someone who I knew didn’t like me ask for a hook out. Ain’t got time. These are the ones who never can do anything because they are too busy. I learned to not invite them. I know that sounds harsh but let me tell you a little secret…people make time for what and who they want. Ain’t got love. You know some folks actually just tolerate you but don’t want to celebrate you. I know for high days like birthdays etc that we invite folks who could care less.
So why are you holding on? You can be cordial and still protect your spirit. You can wave at folks, say hi, and wish them well from afar. They don’t have to know the ins and out of everything you do. I mean even social media allows you to be able limit folks access. Apply the same principles in real life! Let’s stop letting the Ain’t Got it have all of you, your family, etc. Happy Sunday!
Now go have an amazing day! Put some thoughts about this and make the best decision for yourself!
