Solo Moments

There are many who may feel the pinch of being alone in the traditional sense. When you live alone or don’t have the village that you crave it makes it hard sometimes to thrive. If this is you, let’s talk about it. Being alone doesn’t mean that you feel alone all the time. It’s okay when those moments happen too. For those who have experienced let’s encourage our fellow sisters.

Solo Travel

It’s easy to travel when you are connected in the single sense. You are used to having those around you so you crave that alone time. When you are single and that is your normal you crave companionship. This doesn’t always mean in the sense of a romantic relationship. Often times you crave to travel with like minded women who align with your traveling style. If you are the adventurous type traveling with someone who only wants to lay at the pool can be frustrating. Taking that initial step to open yourself up to meet others when you are used to being by yourself is hard. It’s scary. People say making friends when you are an adult is easier but its not. Be easy on yourself is you are struggling with this.

Opening Up to Life as A Single/Solo Woman

When I was single you heard the same tales. People wondering what is wrong with you for not being connected. If you were once connected people don’t understand your desire to be alone just for your own sanity. You may have not found your person. It’s disheartening having to explain it often. Women are expected to be with someone. Our worth often times is associated with who we are with. When you are alone either willfully or not, people assume you have a Scarlet letter on you. It’s almost as if you are a Unicorn of some sort.

Women Groups and Being Solo

I love how many women are learning to open up and meet up for brunches and other events. When someone new comes in, remember to go to them and make them feel welcome. There are many who struggle with anxiety and just showing up is the largest thing they have done all day. Entreat them with the same energy you want to be taken in with. Women are looking for a solid tribe of women who are looking to be loved accepted.

Take your first steps to always be willing to treat others well. We never know what others are going through. So as we continue to be a place for others to look for comfort-let’s be aware of those from all walks of life around us. It’s not easy letting others in even when its something you desire. Take your time while you let others in. It will be a process. It will get easier but it’s hard. You are understood and seen. We are wonderful and stronger as we navigate these difficult processes of life.

Stop Asking People When they Are Getting Married

Marriage is a beautiful thing when you desire it and are willing to grow with another person. It’s something that even as a married woman I would caution others to be about. It’s better to be single and content than married and miserable. I never understood that as a single woman until I got married. Marriage isn’t a badge of honor. Women who are married aren’t better off than single women. It’s a choice. So do not push your ways onto others. I know women who are single who desire to be married.

Living with Intentions not Connections based on Society

It’s a tough situation to desire companionship and it hasn’t come. I also know single women and men too who desire to be alone or with someone without the headache of a formal marriage. In situations where you are with someone and you don’t desire marriage, get paperwork together. If you want your companion to have rights, set them up for that. Do not think that your family and friends will respect your long time companion. Two things bring out the worse in others and that’s weddings and funerals.

I hope no matter what state you are in, that you love you. My hope is that you are safe and secure. This life is already hard. Navigating that on your own terms is a life well lived not who you are connected to. Live the life you have envisioned that includes good mental health at all times. Enjoy your solo moments until you are ready to change that.