You ever hear that when you were a kid? Absolutely you have. That was the cry when you wanted someone know from the gate you wasn’t here for their crap. This was before it became popular to say “you tried it” or “boy bye.” In this blog we talk about dealing with negative energy, checking yourself, and responding to others correctly. A few years ago I got caught in some drama with some family members. I decided they or anyone else would never get the chance again to try me.
Lessons from My Childhood
Now I can admit that my mouth is pretty blunt. I pull no punches. I don’t say to someone behind their back what I won’t say to their face. If I said it, I own it. My mom has raised me on that premise. As much as folks can say what they want about her, they know what you see is what you get. So when you’re a young girl you have to walk real close and not say what you want.
Speak Boldly Lessons from My Mom
However when you become a woman and a real adult, you speak and say what has to be said period. Do you know how many times I was super respectful in school but I would be the one to school a teacher and have my parents back me? I had learned to reserve that go off when it was appropriate. My parents definitely taught me to hold my tongue when I had to but when it was warranted, don’t have them looking crazy but make it a good one.
Oh the Drama
Well today before someone could even try to drag me I had to hit them with the save the drama for your momma pose. I am not here for it. Toi is not the one. I do not want to hear no issues because I have learned that people love to dice up a story and add stuff that ain’t happen and for me, if you gon quote me, quote me right. I had to shut down the young lady and let her know from the gate, that I do not subscribe to banter so if that is what she came for keep it moving. She was mad trying to justify why I should listen but mid sentence I walked away. Just like that no questions asked, no let me go, just simply walked away.
Retreating and Exerting Negative Energy-Check your Drama
In my mind, I don’t care what you wanted to add, it becomes a choice if I sit there and listen and I definitely knew better. A few years ago I allowed another person to make me mad enough that the anger was so super explosive I had to retreat for an entire day. I had to count up the cost if that foolery was even worth it. It wasn’t. So from that point on I make it my business to live in peace with the 4 other folks aka my immediate family i.e., my husband and kids and live our lives without drama.
No drama in the home, so none to go out. This has caused a rift with others but it works for me and my household. Outside of getting blamed recently out of association since I had to be explained as to why I was in the last drama fest, I live quite a quiet life.
Adult Like Tantrums
People are funny that way. They can’t get to you in another way so they tag you with who you associate with. Let’s keep it real, they don’t like the person and it is what it is. They didn’t hear me say, they didn’t see me do anything, but they have to add me in. It’s quite laughable. But I laughed at the little mini altercation this morning as the person was just trying everything to get me upset. My “are you done yet” face still in tact as she reminded me of a tantrum that a child throws. It was cute but not cute enough for me to attach any emotions to it and give her what she wanted which was attention.
Deflect the Drama Energy
If you ever want to make someone mad, don’t pay them any attention. Don’t subscribe to anything they dish. Do not talk, don’t break bread, do not entertain that. That doesn’t mean from a far you can’t show love but until some things are worked out on both parties it’s a no for me sis. As I watched this tantrum from this wayward adult unfold, I thought bless your heart, you just need some friends, some D, a nap, a drink, a vacation, anything but what you won’t get is a high-five on your mess.
Kill People with Kindness
She couldn’t do anything but stop talking to herself. I was a mere distance from her, and her hollering had to stop at some point right? Right. Kill folks with a look, ignore them, walk away, but protect your spirit at all cost. Every time something jumps off I remind myself of that promise. I made the promise few years back that folks weren’t worth my time, energy, my bail money, or my life. Focus on what matters, and keep it pushing folks, keep it pushing.
