As we continue into 4th quarter it’s important to remember how powerful friendships can be. Our relationships with our friends is a bond that can be and feel stronger than our family. Framily as I like to call it will be the glue to helping you achieve your goals. Who you surround yourself matters.
Grateful for Friendships
As you get older you realize the power of friendships more. We are all changing daily. What worked in our 20s won’t work in our 30s,, 40s, or beyond. Those friends that make you realize how blessed you are is a blessing within itself. Knowing your friends genuinely want what is best for you is so reassuring. Acknowledge those friends. Be there for them. Love on them. Don’t take them for granted. Tell them and thank them for what they bring into your life.
Friendships and Aging
It’s important to have the right friends in your corner as you age. As you age your body, mind, and life will go through many changes. From experience birth (for those who want to), divorce, lost of family, and more you need a friend you can rely on. Be careful who you choose to share these intimate relationships with. Having the wrong energy in your life at your hardest moments will make you feel secluded.
Breakups with Friends
Every good friend may be marred by ending a relationship with your Framily that is unexpected. As you mature the level of friendships that you need changes. You value loving and caring relationships that are nature you. When you find that your friend no longer fits the bill it can be hard to digest. Friend breakups sometimes hurt just as much as a romantic relationship. So if you find yourself in a break up-take your self care serious.
Choose Wisely
All relationships require discernment. You always have to listen to your gut when it’s warning you about something or someone. Trust what you are feeling. If you are finding it harder to maintain relationships-do a self check. Sometimes our own traumas and drama will cloud an issue. That is why it’s important to have things like therapy, self care, and the ability to get grounded in your corner. Not being able to see a bad friend is damaging to your goals. You could be sharing your innermost secret parts with someone who is ready to break you down without knowing it.
Unequally Yolk
Friendships matter. Find the friends that are genuine, caring, and loving. As much as we stress being equally yolked in romantic relationships the same principle applies in friendships. If the relationship is no longer serving you, takes away from you, or you find that your friend doesn’t have you in mind, it may be time to release that energy. It won’t be easy. Like all breakups, they can be messy. Stand firm on what you need. Be clear in what you say. Take guard that you are doing what is best for you without stressing that putting you first is wrong.
Some people come into your life for a season. A season of life can be years too. If that friend of 20 years is showing themselves a need to release, take a deep breath and listen to your gut. You don’t have to be entangled with a friendship forever just because it’s been years in the making.
It’s hard at times to walk away from long lasting friendships but you have to make the best decisions for you. Don’t allow the time that has transpired be the only reason to keep the connection!
