It’s National Date your Mate month. This means that we need to get back to the essence of taking our spouses and significant others out on date. Some people stick to their monthly dates. It’s good to keep the love and vitality in your relationship strong. So what are some ways that you can creative on your next date and take dating your spouse to the next level.
Be Consistent in your Date Night
One of the things that is most frustrating is not having consistency in your date nights. I know that life happens. My husband and I have 3 children and very limited village that can swoop in to babysit. However one thing that we have implemented is a Saturday standard date. As much as we would love to leave our home to look at each other over dinner or drinks-creativity for us is at an all time high. No matter what is going on we show up on Saturday night and enjoy each other’s company. We learned in the pandemic how to be creative so we have kept that going even with life opening up.
Get Creative
For our Saturday night dates, we do things like set the time aside to watch a series or movie. Other options is baking or sharing a snack with one another over a glass of wine. Some adult board games. For instance nothing is sexier than some elevated Twister. Our basement is fully finished. We lock the door and whomever falls has to strip. It’s a great way to be physical with one another, creative, and add a little spice at the same time. Maybe you have no issue in the spice department than you can get a Date night book. This is a book of ideas that helps with home dates for those who lack creativity on their own. Use a clear jar and place date night ideas into a jar and pull one Friday night and prepare.
You can do those sip and paints at home. You can order them online. They come with the paints, paint the subject by number and step it up in the snack department. I am talking about themed charcuterie boards, wine, and all of the works.
Set the Time Aside
Even if you can’t do every Saturday night like we do. Find a schedule that works. For those who are having issues in your sex life. Work out whatever issues that are outside of your bedroom before you go into your bedroom. Talk openly about the things that you desire and you feel you are missing. Is your partner needing some guidance on what you like? Are you willing to try new things? Either way make your spouse a priority and they will give you the same energy back.
If you are also having issues with intimacy, try establishing that outside of the bedroom. Send messages, use touch while you are in the kitchen etc. Let your spouse know you are thinking of them in every way. Also as much as people do not like to admit that they are having issues, if you need the help of a licensed professional-get it. Let’s be real, it takes two to tango. It may be heartbreaking when you find that you are willing but your spouse isn’t. No one can go against someone’s will. I pray that the heart of you spouse is open to being united, in love, and more.
Dating your Spouse is an Action Word
Dating your spouse is an action word. It goes well beyond hoping the spark stays. You have to work at it. As much as people debate whether love should come with work keep in mind relationships go through seasons. For instance as much as you want to be intimate couples do age. As you age you want to be sure that you have filled your intimacy bank high. Doing so allows you to be able to look at one another and create intimacy in ways that go beyond sex.
So take this month to set aside time. Be creative. Book a staycation or couple only vacation. Increase intimacy before you get into the bedroom. Come ready to make dating your spouse a priority. It takes two to tango. So let your significant other’s heart be open to doing the work to keep love brewing. Get back to the basics. Bring flowers without being asked, make dinner arrangements, show it more than you simply assume it doesn’t need to be said. Show appreciation on both sides and don’t take your love for granted.
