My husband has cheated in the past, now he wants to go to lunch with the woman he cheated with?

Um absolutely not. If he’s attempting to work things out with you what would make him think it’s okay for him to be able to be eating with this woman?

What do they have to talk about?  He could go but when he did he should take his things with him.  No man is this slow to believe that this request would be okay.  After infidelity the last thing he needs to be worried about is meeting anywhere with the same woman he almost destroyed his marriage for.  I mean I would ask him why if you haven’t but I wouldn’t be sitting around okay with it.

Don’t give an ultimatum either.  Let him make the decision to do what he’s going to do.  Be prepared for it as well.  It speaks volumes that he is even concerned for this woman after being caught in the first place.  Am I to say that people can’t move past it, no very few do but it’s one thing to ask for forgiveness and then disrespect me twice.  He needs to figure out an action plan of reconciliation or a plan to end the marriage.  You can’t work on what you won’t confront and if he’s not willing you can’t make him.