Now this is not about someone telling you that you can diet by eating McDonalds alone although there are some who live like it. This is about receiving advice from unhealthy individuals and you don’t need it. Advice comes from everywhere. That’s the world we live in. From television ads to “reality” television advice is free and all over the place. You have to be super careful where and from whom you take advice.
Unwarranted Advice
Let me give you an example. As I continue to maintain a healthy body I had someone (true story) tell me oh but your arms are super big. Maybe they are. Maybe they aren’t. It was completely ok for someone to have an opinion of my body. (Enter sarcastic eye roll) The interesting point was this came from someone who is very visually overweight. Someone who doesn’t have self control obey what they ate. Someone who says time and time again how they need to lose weight but do absolutely nothing daily. No walks, eats whatever and then complains later-just pure nothing.
Recognizing When Others are Projecting
Does that mean that even with their unhealthy lifestyle they can’t see my “big” arms? Nope. It means that their unhealthy advice can be received with a grain of salt. Yes with a side eye. They can see and speak what they wish but they would be best teacher once they have walked in the obedience of their own words. Sometimes people tell you things from places they are unwilling to walk. They can call your laziness out in an area but dash quick past their own. If I wasn’t strong I would have been beating myself up over a comment from someone who not only won’t show their own arms, legs or any other body part but at the end of the day will continue to mirror an unhealthy lifestyle while focusing their attention on me.
Do What Works for You
I came to the conclusion that me doing what I need to do for my body speaks to the part of them that won’t do the work. Can you receive advice on marriage from someone who’s marriage has super bombed? Yes you can. But make sure that that person giving the advice is being an active participant in their lives especially where they give it. Take the advice but mark them in your mind so you don’t let it over take you.
Tune out the Noise
There are people telling people things daily. You have to be careful the vessels by which the delivery is coming from. I couldn’t have a personal trainer that was overweight. So why do we take advice from folks we don’t respect in the walk of life that they give it. Someone who isn’t working out or watching what they eat and is unhealthy by all accounts can’t give advice on health and then say I know I need to do it. Sometimes they just wanted to be mean spirited to knock you.
Some People don’t Get It
When I was growing up I had someone I respected tell everyone about marriage and relationships and then they did the opposite of what they spoke and lived. I stopped accepting their advice. I no longer needed to feel as if they had the blueprint. Can your ideas change? Yes absolutely but they never accepted the fact that they switched up out of convenience that it no longer suited their immediate need. They wanted the same level of respect that they once had and that shipped sailed.
Unhealthy Advice Affect your Life
Do not let unhealthy people dictate your life choices. It’s more than the health of their body. People who speak ill will theses others, gossipers, etc. all of those things that we know isn’t right take stock and be strong in yourself to strive to be better daily. Sometimes we let the folks with the most minimal drive have a front row of your admiration due to title that don’t need it. Watch who you make an idol. Watch who you hold on the top spot of your life. If your spouse for example downs you daily but you love them and you take that-don’t. Their title says that should be better in how they treat you but you don’t have to take verbal and emotional abuse to protect them or to avoid being alone.
Mental Health Matters
At work the top boss can be the boss but if they are known for tearing their team down and that messes with daily mental health-it’s time to leave. You don’t have to sit in the parking lot crying or willing yourself home because others around them shine a bright light on who they are. Don’t take in their junk daily because their known or are known to make work stars if you take the junk that comes along.
I had an ex boss who was super awful to others. Told everyone how women needed to wear makeup. He would make comments about their clothes. In today’s standards he would be the perfect candidate for the Me Too campaign. He was a pig of a man. Yet people would switch up their outfits and take his advice and reality he was a womanizer and was a trash of a husband. Sorry not sorry. He would talk badly to his wife and thankfully she left him. He ended up losing everything. He was super unhealthy and a jerk but people danced around him and took in what he has to say. Why?
Practice What you Preach
Stop getting used to raggedy people giving raggedy advice based on their unhealthy life. I would rather take advice from someone who is failing and getting up daily because they are trying than someone who is walking around in perfect town making full messes of other people’s lives including their own but telling someone things they aren’t willing to do! Let’s be clear we aren’t talking about perfection. You can be perfectly flawed but working at your best potential. However the unhealthy who put no work into themselves but use their time to demean, point out, and engage in unhealthy behaviors towards others!
This Monday deal with why you take in lessons from certain folks. Be clear in your teachers of life-even me I’m not exempt. Start living life on your own terms. Be careful to not take on other people’s advice when they aren’t willing to walk in the light of what they give. In 2019 there is no more do what I say but don’t worry about what I do or don’t!
Let’s clean out the idols and make sure our own anchors hold. It’s more important to be mentally well and emotionally strong. Remember we are all trying to be our best everyday but don’t let someone who outright has no respect for themselves and others around them take so much stock into what you do for your own life. Let’s start this Monday off right!!
