Life is hard but finding your personal peace is important. We shouldn’t be living alone without peace nor living with others without it either. This doesn’t mean that as soon as things happen that you aren’t living in peace. It’s all about learning what you need and don’t need and living in your truth. No more are the days of waiting for an afterlife to get to peace. You need a little peace on earth.
Living a Hectic Lifestyle
Often times when it comes down to peace is our lifestyle. In college I was young and free. After college when I should have been leaning into my career was spent making decisions that would have never brought me personal peace. Your lifestyle is an indicator of the peace. You can’t be like I was making decisions that you know deep inside will not bring you peace. Over drinking, doing drugs, having multiple sex partners without care to your personal health, eating anything you want, and always ready to fight. These decisions or anything like it will not bring you peace. You will always find yourself wanting more but doing less.
When I realized that my decisions wasn’t aligning with the lifestyle I said I wanted I had to make a decision to do better. We are all worthy of doing better no matter what your level of better looks like. Also do not let the guilt of whatever you are trying to come out of keep you down either.
Personal Peace as a Journey
When I decided one day that there was no way I could continue to live the way I was living it didn’t just magically get into line. It’s been a journey ever since. I am determined to create space around me that is peaceful. This is why I continue to do therapy, be selective of who I am around, make my home a safe space, and I don’t engage in drama with others. If there is an issue and a continuous argument is to be had, I am the one that will let it go. Most things aren’t worth my time or energy. This was an assessment that I learned in therapy. Asking yourself when something happens if it’s worth the argument. Most times it’s not. I use the same thoughts with my marriage. I ask what the true issue is beyond what is occuring. We focus on that and move along.
There is no magical way of seeking peace. Here are some things that I do. May it encourage you to add to it.
- Made an honest assessment of my friends-this also means new friends too
- Spend more time reading over watching television
- Did a huge cut in reality television
- Spent more time with friends doing activities away from bars and clubs
- Got involved in church
- Focused more on my mental health
- Starting working out and getting my personal health together
- Took more trips as a solo traveler and added retreats
Again this is such a small list of things that helped me.
Personal Peace in the Workplace
Most of us work in some capacity. Whether in a traditional office, online, or online. Spending so much time at work is one of the biggest chunk of time in a day. Think about that in regards to your work life balance. Before the pandemic companies talked it but didn’t walk in in their day to day activities. Now everyone is increasing time away from the office, offering hybrid options, allowing more leave to take care of families and so much more. If you are working a job that you truly hate it messes with your head. Here’s a tip I learned. Work the job you hate until it gets you to the job you love.
People save money for a million and one things. Start saving toward the job you want. How? Save whatever amount. This amount is either going to help you should you walk away from a job or give you the things that you need at the new job. Look for another job like it’s a full time job. The apps you use on your phone tell on you every time. Make LinkedIn your most used app.
Peace is something you can create. You don’t have to be involved in things that do not suit the lifestyle you want or are living. Take control. We can’t control everything but our responses we have complete control of. I usually spend time finding and enjoying quiet spaces. Happy Monday and may you find peace in all that you do.
