Good morning and Happy Monday. We are here and challenged for another Monday! A time to regroup and start on new goals. Mondays always seem to come quickly. Weekends seem to pass super fast. So now that we are here, how do you plan to create peace in your day?
Peace and Personal Responsibility
If you live in a house of at least one other person you know that your peace could be interrupted. From a spouse waking up in an argumentative mood to children not flowing with the morning’s requirements. However one thing that is understood is that you are only responsible for your personal responses. I often hear about how someone else made a person respond incorrectly. That’s who you have attached your responses to. It doesn’t make it the truth. You have a personal responsibility to you to be the peace that is needful.
When Peace is Interrupted
How do you respond when your peace is interrupted? First ask yourself if you’re okay with the response you gave? If you’re not, pull it back or tone it down next time. For instance I am a yeller when I’m in super stressful situations. I am responsible for my personal peace. When others disrupt it I have to take charge of how I allow or disallow it. So for the last few months I’ve been delaying my response. It has helped me to understand myself and others around me. If my response is detrimental to others around me even if I’m “right” in how I want to lash out-I’ve been electing to not respond incorrectly. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
Be the Mature Adult
There are plenty of times when you can’t simply go high when someone goes low. One it’s not in our nature to allow people to take advantage of us. Secondly, there are times when you have to allow yourself the ability to do what’s right even when it isn’t feasible. There’s a delicate balance of speaking up and letting things slide. Maybe instead of blowing up or every thing you learn to manage your emotions. Peace is something you may have to create even when there’s no existence in the situation. It’s like asking yourself do you want peace or do you have to always be right?! Right over peace should immediately be evaluated.
Monday Balances
How do you start your day? For me, getting go before my family helps set the tone. If I see a child that isn’t on the same page I usually find out what is wrong. My husband is on his own. I will move around him to continue in my peace. Most of the time he’s okay. He’s not a morning person. I am aware of that. So I keep my chirper demeanor and allow him his space to gripe through his day. I don’t push my ways of moving in the morning on him. As long as the days he takes the kids are held up I mind my business. I don’t know who needed to hear that but I’m not making my husband my child. I have 3 of them. He will either adjust his mood or live with the consequences of not doing so.
The minute I made his mood my responsibility I’ve already given away my peace. It’s a lot easier to move when I move with personal intentions. Having my husband match me isn’t a requirement for our day. I have noticed that my upbeat morning personality has helped him indirectly. That’s what it’s about influencing the morning without having to feel obligated to do so.
Monday Recap
So as we matriculate through another Monday morning, take personal responsibility for your own actions. Do not make others that are adults do things your way. We all have our own opinions and that should be allowed to shine even when you don’t agree with them. Influence others around you to have the same level of peace as you without making it your personal responsibility to carry them. Be the mature adult as often as possible when it’s not a detriment to you’re well being or mental health. Don’t let others walk all over you but learn the balance of being right or being the peace in a situation.
Just because you can doesn’t mean that you should. Remember that today. When you go to respond if it doesn’t work don’t do it. Make today amazing as you are. Create as much peace around you.
