Happy Monday to you. Today I want to talk about the pain that comes along with NO. Like children when we hear no we may experience a plethora of feelings. From being disappointed, to hurt, to anger. What you wanted and where you are in that journey makes your NO levels different.
If you were in what you thought was a loving relationship and you felt the next step was marriage only to find out that the person you held so dear to you is a fake, that NO that he failed you and the pain of starting all over again can be devastating. What about the pain in the NO when you are job searching? Job searching is a numbers game at times. You may hear several NOs in your lifetime where that is concerned. Trust me. When I got laid off of my job in 2010 right after having my premature daughter I was devastated. I was thinking what in the world am I going to do? I moved to Philadelphia and found out I was pregnant again. Out of my element and new to a city I decided to take some time off and do the stay at home mom thing. It was harder than I anticipated. The time I decided to go back to work, I heard so many NOs my heart actually hurt. I felt like I would be at home forever. No after NO after NO began to chip at my spirit. I am human I thought I have a college degree and experience why is this happening. But it did.
During those difficult times of hearing NO and the mix emotions I felt, I got stronger. I felt like I was taken a thousand steps back but I got stronger. I got a job and then began to progress to where I am now but the story wasn’t an easy one. I have had moments where I second guessed myself. I cried. I cursed from being so angry. I was miserable. I had to get it together. So if you woke up and all you can do is hold onto the pain of NO, I get that. Hear me clearly, when you let it go and walk with the sting of the pain and move forward you may not get that YES the same day, but you will if you don’t quit. At the very moment of quitting you will get a YES. Put the work in. Take moments along the journey of NO to renew your mind. You may have to do this daily. Whatever it takes, don’t faint and don’t quit. There is protection in NO. NO means something else is out there for you. No means that the journey you paved for yourself wasn’t the journey YOU needed to be your best self. Shocking how we think we know everything we need until life throws something our way to prove that we don’t. Strive for excellence. You can walk through the pain without the pain knocking your will to live out of you. The protection is making sure you don’t walk further in pain. There are people in places God never intended because instead of listening to the NO and letting it protect them, they let their personal desires walk them willingly into some mess and now they are miserable. They shouldn’t be in that place and they know it. Sometimes that stubborn will have you walking in circles. When things don’t work out there is a reason. If you are running late to a place, there is reason. It’s protection. Yes its frustrating but you don’t know what you are about to walk in. Trust the process. Have faith and walk in the sting of the pain don’t let the pain of NO overtake you.
