Now every mom have distracting moments. You can take your eyes off or your child for a second and anything can happen. What I’m talking about is the mom who puts things above their child chasing other goals.
Listen it’s no secret that there are a lot of grandparents raising their grandchildren. In some cases if not most the children are in better situations with that dynamic. However often times grandparents are raising grandchildren due to the distractions that some moms allow.
Men are usually one of the biggest distractions. Men can be a wonderful asset. However when any man takes away from your ability to be a great mom that’s when you as the mom have to pump the breaks. No relationship is worth your child. Let me repeat myself no relationship is worth your child’s well being ever. There a lot of moms fixing their children mediocre meals but their men are being treated like kings. Listen, I’m all for balance so if you argue that your man should be the king my answer to that is simple. A king should make sure his kingdom is well taken care of. No real man should be comfortable with kids eating cereal while he’s eating steak.
I’m not off base here you see it all the time. Moms who are more concerned that her man has it all and don’t pay no attention to their kids whatsoever. You don’t think your kids feel that neglect? Your kids are sitting there wondering, what about me? Then their behavior turns bad because they are doing things to get your attention. Kids crave attention love, and care. Don’t mess over a child just to have a man in your life.
Other distractions are drugs and alcohol. Yes some moms are consumed with having the time of their lives and miss out being there for their children. How many moms who think getting high on weekends is the jumpoff? Some folks spend more money on drugs than they do on their kids clothes and shoes. Same issues apply. Let me also say this we got some functioning drug users and alcohol users who justify their actions. Let me inform you of something, your kids see you and your behavior.
Dreams. Nothing wrong with having dreams. However if you have a dream that takes you away from your child what’s your plan of action to incorporate your child? You will have to do extra work to make that child feel wanted. You can’t simply tell a child that you’re doing this for them and expect them to understand. Even if you leave them with a responsible adult, nothing will ever replace you. They are going to need your extra support.
If you’re a distracted mom it doesn’t make you an awful mom it’s just time to refocus on the little people in your life that needs you. It’s time to make them your priority. You can have a life with children it’s all a balancing act. Don’t let anyone come in between your children. Trust me you don’t get many opportunities to make it right. You will lose out on memories.
