Midweek Check-In: Resetting Yourself

Happy Wednesday during this Christmas holiday week. I wanted to do a midweek check in to make sure that above holiday preparations that you are all doing well.

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Hard Week For Some

Yesterday amongst getting things done I spent a lot of time thinking about family members who are no longer here with us. This time of the year is hard for so many. Missing loved ones is not uncommon. Sometimes a simple dessert or fragrance of the holiday can trigger grief. There are many layers of grief. So if you’re experiencing a level of grief that is overwhelming please know you’re not alone. It’s okay to feel, miss, be angry or whatever your level of grief showcases. If you have never experienced grief so overwhelming during the holidays please do not tell others that they simply should be over it. Also respect People’s wishes as they grief.

Mental Health Check-In

You know people who don’t experience onset of mental health issues don’t realize how checking in with themselves is key. Life throws so many curve balls. So checking in with yourself matters. Not checking on yourself leaves you open to a meltdown or a break down. I for one know that you want to avoid that. Knowing yourself is key. What are some things you need? I for one have a plan in place.

Recognizing my plan is helpful. For instance I journal, do increased self care, and speak to my husband about things bothering me. If that doesn’t work and I need my therapist I have his emergency line. Thanksgiving I needed some sessions and we talked about what I could do the week of Christmas. So far it’s been working. So whatever you need please do.

Holiday Blah Check-In

Please do not call people Grinches when their holiday meter is lower than yours! Trust me people are fighting battles that are invisible. Pain is real. People need to articulate themselves the way they need to. Allow people to be themselves. You can be jolly and happy without having others co-sign. If you are sad or depressed and need help-please reach out to someone you can trust.

Check in Activities

So what are some of the ways I check in?

• Write down your immediate feelings or thoughts
• Assess any pending issues that seem to keep coming up internally: money, parenting, relationships, career
• Not try to solve everything: sometimes we stress over solutions when some things need time
• Be honest with where you are: do not fantasize over where you want to be and make it your reality. Be real and honest.

Increased Self Care

It’s not selfish to practice daily self care. Lately I’ve been listening to some Gospel music from my childhood. Although it also reminds me of my Great-Grand Parents. It sometimes makes me sad as well as soothing. I also been heavy into my monthly reading. Reading and engaging in Podcasts other than my own has been helpful too. Sitting outside for a few moments has been helpful. It’s been a mild Winter. A walk in the neighborhood is great. Calling a friend and talking to them. I love hearing how my friends are winning. Listening without judgement when they need me is helpful. I also love taking a ride in my car. My car is new and I’m so proud of the journey to get it.

Other ways for me also include prayer and meditation. Yes I do both. Sometimes stretching has been helpful. Asking for help has been self care too. My husband and I both work from home most days and so being able to say I need help with the kids pick up has helped me. Why? That stress of finishing a task and having to stop midpoint can get a lot. Increase your self care. I bought a new face cleansing wand. Using some newer face products is self care. Don’t complicate self care. It’s in the little things as well as the big ones too! Tap in!

Set Aside Time for You

People say they don’t have enough time and I say you’re prioritizing your time. Get up before your home. Set the tone. Listen I have some days I have to be somewhere by 530am. I still get up and set my day. Get up, take care of you, meditate or pray, eat breakfast or whatever you need. Sometimes sitting up in my bed for 10 minutes using Calm is helpful too. Whatever you need set time aside. Sometimes going to bed is all you need too. Rest is taking time to refuel yourself. So don’t say you don’t have time. Admit you’re not managing your time effectively. Get off of social media and get that rest. You are just as much a priority as anyone else you’re taking care of. No more giving from an empty cup!

Happy Wednesday. This is your cue to check in with you! Be honest about where you are. Be vigilant in your self care. Take care of you! Set aside time. Manage your time. Make you a priority. Reset daily. Missed some me time? Reset! Missed eating a meal? Reset! You can reset at any time. Have an amazing rest of your week!