Merry Christmas to all who celebrate it. The day is finally here. Like many households that comes with an array of feelings. Christmas may not be what you expected. If you are struggling to be a jolly spirit you aren’t alone. Don’t pretend. Try not to spew those feelings on others but it’s okay to be honest. Today can be all that you want. Make a plan, reach out to those who may need it.
Parents and Christmas
To all of my fellow parents, are you okay? I know that I have been up super early but no greater joy for the holidays is to see it through the eyes of a child. Whether that’s a child that you birthed or one that is in your life. So enjoy those moments. They don’t last forever. I pray that every parent double checked that they had batteries and other accessories for the presents purchased. We do a tradition of making sure that we talk about what Christmas means to each of us. In addition we talk about those who we miss and love who can’t share in today’s activities. Lastly, we do our best to remind our children that today there is a child who isn’t as blessed as them. Reminding them that they are blessed all year long. Teaching gratitude every step of the way but allowing them to be kids and enjoy the moment.
Christmas Prayer
As a PK it’s important for me to always keep a prayer in my heart. My prayer for those who are willing to receive it is for peace to be in your homes above the things that you have. Peace is priceless. Sometimes it may mean staying to yourself or your own little family or set of friends that resonate with you to have it. It may mean taking a trip because that is what you desire. Whatever part of the Earth you are in-I pray it is filled with peace and joy.
Family and Friends
As I have done in the past I will reach out to my friends and family both near and far. Check in and on someone today. Be the joy that they may need. You don’t have to fix them today. Be sincere when you reach out. If you find you aren’t able to do so-please don’t disturb someone else’s joy. People need to know that above today that they are loved. However on high days like today it never hurts to be reminded of that love. Don’t just text or send those pre-populated text messages. Reach out and hear someone’s voice. We talk about that on the podcast this week.
Christmas Self Care
Self care is everyday and today is no different. So here are a few things to think about when it comes to self care:
- Send those to voicemail that you aren’t ready to talk to-it’s okay
- Take a break if necessary
- Say No as a full sentence to things you aren’t willing to do
- You may need to journal or use your notes on your phone to write out your feelings-it’s okay
- Do not overdrink to cover up pain-limit your drinks and drink responsibly
- Have fun today
- Visiting family-have a plan, bring something you want with you to eat or drink, leave when you are ready
- Not visiting anyone and need some alone time-do activities you want-watch a movie, read a book, watch some comedy whatever it takes to ensure your personal peace
- If going online is triggering-come offline
Whatever you choose to do may it come with quiet, peace, and joy. Joy feels as if it’s hard to find when the weight of the world is on your shoulder. Find that simple joy. Merry Christmas to all who celebrate it.
