Well where I live it’s about to be a nice 90 degrees. This is a signal to every female of what to expect in the coming months. It doesn’t matter if you’re single, married, or an alien, if you are female the foolery is going to happen. For my single ladies, this cat calling will confuse you if you don’t have your wits about you. For some we can get cat called on daily but for those who may be a little rusty and looking to step back in the dating field, let me give you a few details to remember.
I got you ma personality-this is the man with all of the promises in the world but NEVER comes through. Also watch for the ones who are hit and miss with the promises. They were waiting on you to drop your drawers and didn’t want to go all in-trust me. I met a guy a million years ago that was like, I got you: nails, hair etc I ain’t seen him in a million years. He was all talk. It may seem like part of the game but there are a lot of cues to this type of man. Look at if you get that far how he interacts with those around you. If he is the flashy type of guy that makes it rain in the club but ain’t making it rain in his own home, there is a problem. We all love to go out and have a good time but if you find the man you are entertaining is the type that don’t have his stuff together, run. In your 20s living it up is what folks do, but anything past 20s is screaming “run the hell away.” If this man can’t get your nails and hair done but keeps promising you, what are you wasting your time for? Not that you need him to do it. Let’s keep this real during the time I met the I got you ma man, I was at the nail and hair salon bi-weekly. So his donations weren’t needed. I wasn’t the woman looking for a come up. My momma already taught me how to maintain without a man. So for the men on some oh she trying to get the ladies to be a gold digger you can relax that’s not even the case. Be clear that a LOT of men will approach a woman especially when they think she and he are comfortable with the let me get you lies. Women don’t even have to give it up.
How many times has a man said I don’t care that you’re married? Trust me a lot. How many of them said I can get you whatever and you can look in their eyes and see they full of it? A lot. Ladies, you know I am telling the truth. The problem is once you have gone out on a few dates we tend to forget that it’s all about the chase. The I got you ma man isn’t staying around to really wine and dine you past getting the “cookie.” So you have to see if that man’s words have weight. The game doesn’t change. The issue is that some women will find that man who does make good on what he says and messes him over. This does happen. Be careful in the world of scammers. Not all men are scammers but trust there are some. Some men, will put only a little bait to see what you are willing to do. You want the expensive restaurant, it’s going to cost you. You want a new handbag, it’s going to cost you. The cost to them is mere pennies to what it cost you to think you finally found the one and are left with a broken heart. Unless a wet spot on some sheets is all you need than I say go for it!!
I had a guy tell me he was going to buy this and that I have yet to see it but guess what, I bought it myself. End of the day its simple, be your own boss. Go to the table with more than hips and thighs. You are not a value meal. Learn to smile and give them a little snazziness back when they start talking that game. Learn to weed out the losers that really just want to get laid. Always remember as a woman when you walk away from one there is another so don’t waste your beautiful times on a bunch of lies. Its warm, Summer is coming and skirts and dresses make these men lose their mind. Don’t lose yours….
