Happy Thanksgiving. I am so grateful this and every year. I have a lot to be thankful for. One thing I am even more excited is to be in the right head space to truly see my blessings. Not everyone sees how blessed they are. Recognizing your blessing is a blessing in itself. So as you start your day today, be mindful of the things you have. The things you dismiss could be the thing that someone desires.
My Children are Blessings
I am truly blessed to love on my children. There is an awareness of those who struggle with infertility. I am also aware of my own near death moments having them. My children are excelling. In a world that thinks that children don’t deserve respect I love that we see and listen to them. I am watching them evolve into beautiful beings. The last thing I want to be is a hinderance to their growth. They have been doing well since entering back into school full time. I pray continued blessings always over them.
My Husband is Blessed
I am grateful for the husband that I have. There were times when I couldn’t always say that. I have been vigilant in how he and I move. There were times when divorce was inevitable. Having to work out out differences was no easy task. It took both us wanting to do better. It also took individual and collective therapy. In marriage what we see as an us issue is a you issue based upon trauma that needs healed. We learned that and how to communicate better. Not that all of our exchanges are on the right path but we strive to better.
Thanksgiving Prayer
My prayer is that all families that are getting together in peace and love. It’s true and sad at the same time that many that are getting together may be doing so without the right intentions. Family secrets, drama, pain, and lack of boundaries will come together for a meal that could result in further trauma. For those who decided to protect your peace-know that putting you first won’t be easy but it is necessary. One less turkey leg that isn’t eaten with guilt is worth it. For every reader and supporter I pray nothing but peace.
Therapy and Thanksgiving
Last year I started my day in therapy. I went from placing the turkey into the oven to talking to my therapist. It was planned that way because I knew that I would need that extra support. Time was harder last year without knowing what would become of the earlier days of Covid-19. Although we aren’t out of it quite yet, it was disheartening for me and I knew what I needed. I am grateful for my therapist having available hours to cover me and my family.
Family Breaks
A few years ago I took a break from my extended family. It was what I needed. I did it without having to blame them for it. It was what I needed to practice some self care. I was able to gather myself. It allowed me to place boundaries where there was none. It allowed me to see myself thriving too. Some people look down on family breaks. It’s not healthy to keep riding a train you know is broken.
I was broken. I needed time to heal. That healing in general is what made me a better person. It allowed for personal accountability. Now I can come around as much or as little as I see fit. If you are in the midst of a break, remember your why. It’s not your job to fix others. You owe it to yourself to walk this Earth in peace of mind and body.
Remember there are some non-traditional ways of celebrating today. You may be at a Friendsgiving, helping to fee others, or even just simply indulging in self care-it’s about carving the day into what you want and need.
Joy at Thanksgiving Dinner
I plan to cook today, eat, and drink wine. I since therapy have been able to really enjoy the holidays with true and clear intention. The joy of seeing my family eat together is nothing I could even explain. We teach our children to be mindful of those surrounding them. The world is hurting. The pain is real. I pray that today is a day for all to experience the real joy and love that everyone is due. Happy Thanksgiving from my family to yours.
