Galentine’s Day: Navigating Sisterhood and Relationships

Galentine’s Day is today. It’s been celebrated as a day to honor the women in your life that are like your sisters. These are the friends who pour into you life in every way. So how do you navigate relationship with your favorite Galentine?

Do You Have a Galentine?

Many of us don’t use the term until around this time. Often times we call them our Bestfriends, Bestie, Sister Friend, Sister or just Close Friend. It doesn’t matter what you call your friend there are a few things that we have to be clear on. When you’re in your 20s you look to friendships of those who seem to align with you. We want friends that have proven to be Ride or Die friends. This is the friend that no matter the adventure, right or wrong, they are loyal and down for whatever takes place. As you get older you put emphasis on friends who help you to be a better version of yourself. This is why friendships change as you change in your growth and age.

Growth in Friendships

If you have ever experienced a loss of friendship due to growth you know how hard it can be. You realize that wild and crazy friend isn’t in the same growth pattern and often times have to decide if the friendship holds value. The pain of a friendship that ends, is almost as debilitating as losing a spouse or close family. It changes you. If you aren’t careful can place a distance in your heart to not allow you to open up to others.

No New Friends

Dj Khaled’ song “No New Friends” was an ode to keeping only the day 1’s close. Day 1’s change too. We must be honest about that too. Sometimes we have to replace the Day 1’s too. So while we want loving relationships from our friends and we are due that, be optimistic. Although you may not be as open and ready to jump into the world of new relationships it may be time. Navigating friendships as an adult. I personally remember how liberating I used to be. As I get older I am a little more reserve in trying new things. One thing about relationships is that the addition should be welcoming. In order to get new friends, you must be a friend too. Also be open to the fact that some friends are only seasonal. Sometimes they can be the issue but so can we.

Friendships Blossom

Friendships blossom where they are watered. Do you have a friend that gives you the same energy? Learn what your friend needs. Don’t assume that because you are friends that you no longer need to do a check in. Your friend needs to feel the same support that you seek. Ask if they are okay. Check in on them. If you’re able remember important days and send little reminders of how amazing they are. Your friend should be doing all of the same things. Friendships like most relationships a two way exchange.

We don’t put one another down. Celebrate successes. Encourage. Uplift. Hold the hands of those in need. Pray and speak peace when peace is disturbed. So as we get closer to celebrate Galentine’s Day make sure you do what you can to remember the good ones. Say a prayer for the friends that growth have separated us from. Look forward to captivating new friends who we are welcoming with the spirit of love.  So how will you celebrate your friends?

What to Gift your Girlfriend?

Even today being a little late to mail out gifts, here are some things that you can electronically send your girlfriend(s):

Gift card to Audible-nothing is more nurturing than receiving a gift card to increase reading

Gift card to their favorite store

Brunch-its Sunday make some plans to grab a drink or amazing food

Flowers-if they live local surprise them with a bouquet of fresh flowers

Time-call them, meet up, or facetime on the phone for a little face to face time

Whatever it is let them know you love them. Life is short. Don’t assume they know it-tell them.  Happy Galentine’s Day to my amazing tribe of uplifting women in my own circle. You all rock!