I think doing check ins with yourself is important. It’s not just something you do when the New Year hits or on your birthday. A life check up and check in helps to reinforce your goals. So what do you do when you check in and discover your life is heading left and you are off task of completing your goals? Let’s discuss that for National Evaluate your Life day.
Deep Breath
You take a deep breath. You find out what caused you to lose focus. Was it not investing enough time into yourself? This happens more often than most people think. If you aren’t doing a monthly or even a weekly check up, you can find that on your lists of importance- you are on the bottom. You can’t give to someone when you have nothing to give of yourself. Take the time to put you back on the top of the list and make your dreams come true.
What if you don’t have enough resources?
A lot of us don’t have enough resources. We simply are acquiring them as we go along. Join the crowd. End of day, you can still make things happen. If you work your plan and find hiccups, set some new intentions. Research what you need and how others in your same position got them. If it worked for them it can work for you. The difference is when you don’t have resources you have to learn to make them from scratch. Ask a mom who has limited resources but her children have many needs. If she loves her kids, she gets up and makes it happen.
What if the list are long and overwhelming?
Take that list and put them into categories. What can you do right now? What will take the least or most time? List them in order of the time you think it will take to make it happen. Not all dreams if not most are build over night. You have to be doing the work and being consistent. Its like the stories of those who are looking for a job and interviewing. They may hear a thousand Nos until they get to that Yes. Be consistent and keep moving.
What if you lose hope?
Hope isn’t lost its just shifted. You have to be able to refocus yourself. How do you refocus yourself? Look at what you want. Is it something that no matter how many times you put it down, you keep coming back to it? Is it a passion that you feel on a daily basis? If you are at work is it always on your mind? This is where your hope is. Just because you laid your dream down, it didn’t die its crying out to you to pick it up. This is why you talk about it all the time. This is why the desire is burning so bright. It has a hold of you tighter than you have a hold on it. Tighten it up. Get back out there. Be ready for a few Nos. Be ready for times when you feel overwhelmed.
Draining? Evaluate your Spacing
Evaluating your life can be exhausting. It can be mentally draining. All you do is focus on what you don’t have, where you aren’t, the time wasted, etc.
Keep Going
You will find it hard to keep going. Find the little victories along the way. Get back up, dust yourself and get back into your life. Don’t quit on life, make your life happen. Even if that dream takes years as long as you keep moving you will get there. Everyday there is at least one more thing you can do to make your dream happen. If you aren’t doing something everyday than you aren’t working hard enough or smart enough.
If you want to lose weight, everyday you should be drinking your water, increasing your exercise, substituting better food in place of bad food. This is daily. If you want to go to school, you need to prepare. Have you gone to the school of your choice and spoke to a counselor? Applied for grants online and in your community? Have you filled out the application? Are you working hard in the day to finance school? This is called an action plan. The part where you take your dreams from off the paper and push them into the atmosphere of action so you can see the reward!
Make the changes but keep pursuing!
