Last year during the holidays on social media specifically Christmas the drama that unfolded about forgetting mom for stocking stuffers and Christmas gifts was absurd. Although many moms come alive with mom magic let’s make sure we are honest about our needs too. Too many moms spend more time sad about what they didn’t get. Let’s change that.
Courtesy Goes a Long Way
The holidays, although commercialized, are about courtesy. It’s the thought that counts. Putting in a little effort goes a long way. So, when moms or women (no kids necessary) makes consideration about what to gift their loved ones they want it in return. The thought into what will make your person smile is what women around the world want.
Forgotten Gifts
Too many women were crying, and I do mean actual tears on the internet about being forgotten. I’m going to say this and hold your hand when I say this- we must do better at communication. If I hear one more woman say they don’t want anything when they do is one of the reasons why this continues. You are just as deserving of having someone think of you and execute a plan to show that.
When you tell someone, they don’t have to do anything for you they actually listen. I know men are reading this and thinking they are off the hook but stand by you are up next.
Effort is always Necessary
Again men, I was coming. Where women lack in communication, some of you lack in delegation. You don’t always pay attention to trivial things. Have you noticed her favorites? What about the look in her eye at certain commercials? When was the last time you found a way to take something off her plate? This is gold. Women try to multi-task so taking something from her list is golden.
Think about getting someone to clean the home. Hire an in-house chef, send her for an overnight by herself. Thinking of something she can unwrap? Think about her likes. If she’s a purse person get her one that she wouldn’t buy herself but would love. Same goes with shoes. If she’s a shoe person, get her a pair. If you aren’t as good at thinking of a specific pair get her gift card for it.
Stocking Stuffer Battles
When you have small kids and the stockings are filled by the lady of your home, why didn’t you think you had to think of her? She was supposed to buy it for the family and hers? No. You need to do it. It doesn’t take that much effort to find interesting things she loves. The stores are filled with whole sections where the effort is already done for you. You could take a few moments to peruse and get the items.
Fill her stocking yourself!
Yes, you who she is spending time and a life with you can fill it. On Christmas Eve I usually wrap all of the gifts and set them under the tree. After I checked that it looks the way I envision it I go to bed. While I’m sleeping my husband religiously goes and adds things to my stocking. I don’t fill it. There is no me coming down and being disappointed. The reason is I have had the conversation. Honestly was with me first.
How you treat her speaks volumes
Regardless of children you should consider your person. When children are present it’s even worse. You need a woman like me who if my kids asked why Santa didn’t fill my stocking, I would tell them that daddy was told from Santa, and he didn’t listen. Now I know that this may seem extreme but sometimes direct work. However, if you have these conversations beforehand you could avoid the stocking stuffer debacle.
Let’s recap the Stocking Stuffer Debacle:
- If you thought, she didn’t want courtesy, that’s not the case she does.
- Fill her stocking yourself.
- Consideration is the name of the game.
- Ladies, we are going to be honest.
- Men we are going to execute effort.
- Together we are going to let the magic of the holidays unfold.
The holidays should be special for all. Not just moms using their mom magic for the kids and being left out. No more men not executing effort. Also, ladies are not thoughtful. Honest conversations are where we are going this year. We aren’t crying on the internet louder than we do our person at home. If you can make a video have the conversation.
Now if you have conversations and no effort is being had I would bet money that there are many more issues happening at the same time. This broader conversation that needs to be had in years in the making. This means the lack of stocking stuffers is only a symbolism but that’s another blog for another day! Struggling? Here’s a holiday gift guide to start!
