I have so many tips for doing different work outs but I am not a professional so I really have what works for me. I don’t even act like my fail proof plan is a Godsend for all, however there comes a time when you have to be on top of things because let’s face it, who else will? I remember a reader asking an Ask Toi about gynecological exams and if they should continue to have them done after they were married. My answer then and now is an absolute YES!
Marriage doesn’t mean you sexual health is perfect. You as a woman need to be aware that now that you got the ring and are one, you can still be one at risk woman. I always wish happiness and great sex for married couples but if anything you should know right now, everyone ain’t on the up and up. Not only that outside of getting an unwanted and unexpected non gift from a mate, is the risk of ovarian cancer. It is your job to do all you can to live a happy and healthy life. Part of living a healthy life is to be about your health and sexual health is important. No ring or marriage certificate will keep you safe. So my advice is simple, get checked. I’ve told the story before how when I was pregnant with my youngest, my OBGYN asked me if I wanted to get the STD panel done. My answer was hell yes. Her response is well you’re married and you have kids. I asked her who licensed her again because if you are giving me of sound mind this advice what in the holy hell was she telling other women. Ladies get checked regardless of your status even my born again virgins that ain’t had none since Jesus was a baby, you need to get things checked too.
No married woman should be told, you good and that’s it. Again the amount of women who die from ovarian cancer is enough for me to check. Also like I said I do not subscribe that my husband is so perfect that there is a chance that I am going to be okay. I do trust my husband but how many women rely on trust alone and find out after it’s too late that there husband was on the “down low” and they have contracted something that a pill or a shot can’t cure. I have told my husband plenty of times that I love me and my kids enough and I get that sometimes men take chances on getting some new %ussy but I refuse to live my life where I just throw caution to the wind. One of us has to love themselves enough to get things checked out. So far after 5 years there hasn’t need to put the “man” between us. I do not live my life on the edge. If something is wrong I want to know, get a plan and keep it moving. This is why I encourage my ladies and my men to know what is going on with your health. Avoidance is a sure fail way to not live your best life. In order to have a good life you need to be here.
So find what works for you in general. I would also encourage all to see your doctor as well as a nutritionist. These two are key to getting your health on track. What you eat is literally a large component to how healthy your life is. Eating the wrong things can contribute to high cholesterol, weight issues, etc. Overall health seems so overwhelming. I think when I am trying to drink enough water, exercise, take care of my kids, go to work, have a good sex life, be good to my husband, and anything else life throws how much it takes to be on point in each other. This is why I believe in balance. However when it comes to my health, I believe in going in, getting things checked and then attacking each area.
