Sunday Message: Boundaries and Joy

Today’s lessons is a simple one, let’s be clear on boundaries and joy. It’s been so long doing a Sunday message. I have been taking these last few Sundays and really finding ways to rest. Today with it also being Daylight Savings it’s apparent that resting is the theme we should really put into practice. I have been digging deep into my self care.

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Take Care of Yourself

I do a lot of trying to take care of myself. In my life when I have given others the opportunity to do so they have failed. I used to put my energy into hoping people held what I wanted in high regards. However, I realize that you can’t let your guard down. I don’t know if life gives you the open door or window where people honor you in the way that you need it to be done. Even as a kid I remembered being too trusting. I struggled with that as an adult. Trusting and giving my heart to others has taught me some of the most hard hitting lessons that I could write books on.

Personal Boundaries

I am learning that my personal boundaries are just that-personal. Even if you have agreement with another person in helping you with boundaries, they are yours alone. I tetter some times with issues of allowing others the space to be active participants in my boundaries. I am learning to be proactive. What I want usually doesn’t match others. I am not always okay with that. It hurts. It’s like holding a sign and having someone tear the sign in your face. So this particular Sunday I am readjusting.

Peace is Costly

You can’t afford to give your peace to everyone. Not everyone is honorable enough to be an active participant in your own personal peace. I’m at my best when my peace isn’t disturbed. I used to feel a sense of guilt when my anxiety would be agitated. I’m often made to feel as the fact that the people who trigger my anxiety are often right and I am wrong. This weekend I learned to trust my gut. It’s okay that I recognize that the ones who disturb my peace aren’t right. When something makes me feel unsafe or unsettled, I realize there’s a reason.

Lessons in my Personal Therapy

I have learned a few lessons in therapy. I am a runner. If something makes me uncomfortable its normal for me to leave. I was told that as a runner in my past life meaning my formative years, I would run but not deal with actual issues. I have been in therapy off and on for the past few years. Once I started to deal with issues and certain things would be alerted in me I knew that removing myself was a healthy boundary. You can’t heal with what you don’t deal. As I have dealt with those painful issues, I am learning more and more that I am finally in a healthier mindset. The situations that mirror my original issues have gotten more and more slick in how they are revealed. Life works that way. No two situations are the same ever.

Joy of Life

I am learning to find a way to evoke joy. As much as I can go back to those therapy lessons and as much as the possibility of triggers are always present, there is joy. I can still find the joy of living daily. My kids are healthy, my mind clear, and my heart aligned. Find your joy. Don’t let the truth of life not allow you to check into some form of joy. One thing about joy that is different than happiness is that joy, is an inward experience that isn’t shut down by life’s happenings. Life sucks at many moments. Don’t let life suck the joy out of your being. Be the joy not that the world needs but that you need.

Take Away (s)

Today as I write in my journal and work through a few thigs on my plate I have to report honestly, I am a bit sad and frustrated. That is also apart of the journey. Being able to be honest about where I am in my feelings. So what can be some of your take away (s):

• Be honest with yourself
• Trust your gut what you are feeling may need a check but its okay to lean in
• Get the help that you need
• Set Boundaries and don’t let anyone make you change them

Happy Sunday. Wherever you are in your walk of life today, don’t let it get you so far off that you can’t bask in your own personal joy. Set your boundaries. Love on purpose.