Let me tell you, when you step out on anything you WILL be tested. My mom gave me that advice the second I told her I wanted to start blogging. Listen ask any of my educators, blogging isn’t something that is far fetched. When you love what you do its never a chore. I don’t sit around thinking of topics. I speak from my heart, my life, and my experiences.
As a blogger I find peace. I journal on my own really personal issues but trust me this is peace. However sometimes life imitates art. I had a discussion with a friend the other day that has come to bite me in the butt. Like I said my mom told me that blogging would keep me on my toes as well as hold me accountable.
I blog about anything from how we look when we walk out the door to handling relationships on all levels. I love feeling like I’m helping folks in my own way. Also I have a lot of friends who come to me for advice it was just a natural fit. However in this journey in life, I find myself in sticky situations that I have to lean on myself for advice.
Never give what you aren’t willing to chew. If I say be patient and work out relationship you can best believe I’m doing the same. So as I said I was talking to a friend about getting to the point where she no longer is moved by the other person in her life who seems to be the type who doesn’t support her. Than smack, not the same issue but the same principle hit me.
Let me tell you this, I struggle with communication like badly. But at this point in my life instead of shutting down, I’m being as proactive as I can to be present and work things out. However my timing is usually off key. So if you’re like me you get a lot of frustration from others. You probably get a lot of grunts and stares. However let me just say keep on going.
I’m a firm believer that even if I fall daily and most likely I do, it’s better to put my best foot forward than to stand in silence. Now let me just say that won’t magically fix your issues with others. It’s not supposed to. It will show your try. Guess what, your try isn’t going to be good enough in all situations. Be confident in yourself to acknowledge it and know that some folks are just seasonal.
I was always taught that your gift will make room for itself and I’m a walking billboard. I have people in my intimate circle who see my struggles and see the times I’ve fallen. Until I’m dead and gone you will always see me dust myself and press on. It’s at this moment when the blogger has to share this with you. You are your own enemy and you are you’re own motivator. No one will support you like you.
I was reading an article today and realized in my past I’ve been one who needed attention from others in the form of approval. If this is your way of navigating through life you will find many miserable days. You do NOT need another person’s approval. If someone is not paying attention do not do another mental back flip to get them to give you their love. Stop! Don’t pass GO and do NOT collect 200!!
You are literally enough and if you find things won’t work it will hurt like hell but you owe it to yourself to be happy and to live without brakes. Please just stop. I know what it’s like going the distance to find that your very makeup of who you are wouldn’t have been enough to begin with. Liberate yourself. I’ve been there and it’s the worst place. I sat today and thought many times from a little girl up to this very moment I cried. I thought about the moments a mean word about my looks, my dreams, and how and what I’ve offered to people was stepped on.
My dad said something to me a couple of months ago that stuck with me. I won’t go into it in detail but he wanted me to know that I could stand in a group or alone but I had more than enough tenacity to really make a difference. He told me you will know if you are in the right crowd cause it won’t be a job.
Please I encourage you to learn to spend the moments alone and work yourself over. Be authentic with yourself and be honest with yourself. I’m not talking about that you’re fat, you’re ugly talk. I’m talking that honest talk that you see where you are, who you are around and what you want and align yourself. You won’t have to shake folks off, circumstances will do it for you. Allow it!
