Is it okay to air out a grievance about a company or individual who didn’t offer a good service or a faulty product?
If they have a social media page for their work than yes. Business is business. In this social media age, how you deal with folks will air itself on social media. So if you got to Toys R Us (I say them because last Christmas I aired them out) and they failed, reach out to their customer service. If that gets you now where its fair game. I find often times you can get them to respond better if you drop a dime on them on social media. Make sure when you do that you are okay with others seeing it. Most times these are not private comments. To business owners, it would be in your best interest to make even mistakes right, social media has been known to end a business as customers have been known to drag someone for filth.
Is it okay that a grandparent doesn’t babysit a child?
Yes grandparents are not expected to baby sit. They are not the golden ticket to your social life now that you are a parent. Many grandparents are out here living their best lives now that they are no longer tied down to kids of their own. However grandparents should be involved in their grandchildren lives in other forms. This means supporting them in school functions, attending birthday parties, holidays, etc A grandparent who doesn’t do these things should be held to a higher standard than them not simply wanting to babysit at will. If you are experiencing other issues where the grandparents have checked out, it may be some deeper issues. I know some grandparents who do not and miss out on a lot of experiences and it comes out in how the kids interact with them. Again they will lose precious time, try not to forget that.
How do you deal with a mate who has checked out emotionally?
One you have to communicate and find out why. Find out if that mate even knows it. Sometimes they may have things on their hearts and minds and makes it hard to even know that they are missing in action. You are not a mind reader, simply ask. If there is resistance. Give it some time and space. However you will have to revisit and if the resistance is still there, try counseling. Do NOT nag them. Trust me no one wants that. You are both grown so talking and communicating although not easy still has to take place.
Do you have to exchange gifts for the holidays with your mate?
I think I may have talked about this before but no. This is something that is between couples. Some couples do so much all year-long that they don’t see the value in giving gifts to one another. They not only give gifts but they invest in their mate, i.e taking them to the things their mate likes, getting them gifts for no reason, bringing flowers just because its Friday, getting tickets to their mate’s favorite team-overall thoughtfulness. I would opt in some other tradition. I think that couples should build together. Maybe instead of gifts you make a new pot of savings. Maybe make the pot a vacation together, purchase a house, etc. You can decorate it, and place money from both partners. This way you have something visible to show that you are moving towards goals. However as many complain about these commercial holidays many don’t find out their partners love language and definitely do NOT show them they love them all year. Love is not gifts. Love should be how you speak, how you protect, how you engage. Do not give your mate the excuse of not giving gifts on top of an already raggedy relationship. What is the point in losing all the way around? No a gift will not mask things but everyone likes to receive. Its better to have a solid relationship than a bunch of stuff but its horrible to have nothing both in gifts and treatment as well and then try to hide under the no holiday guide as well. Do better in how you love and show love. All the ones complaining about getting all year, don’t mean they AND their mate feels that they are being loved on all year-long. Only you know that, also if your mate still wants to give don’t make them feel bad or pressure them to have the same mindset as you do. Give them a gift because they want to for the holidays. Relationships isn’t about being one-sided or going along with the dominating mate either. It should be mutually respected and enjoyed by all.
