I get this question so often. Matters of the heart are hard. One moment you may say it’s time for me to go and the next you can’t see yourself without your husband.
Be true to yourself. Only you know what you need. Keep in mind that marriages go through phases. Love is a beautiful thing but marriage takes work. I don’t know the history of you and your husband nor do I know your current issues. What I can suggest is that you exhaust all means to make it work before you throw in the towel.
You have to know that you have tried. One thing when I got married was realizing that it was a real commitment. It’s more than saying I do. It was the reality of having to talk, work, love and understand another person unconditionally. I didn’t fully understand that prior to marriage. Everyone around you tries to tell you what to expect, but it’s nothing until you get in.
I’ve said it more than once and I truly believe that if married folks would talk about the real, people would get pass flower arrangements and dresses and count up the cost. I’m not suggesting you stay or leave. I’m smart enough to know that love and the matters of the heart is very personal. Think of what you have done to the current state of your marriage whether good or bad. What have you done to make it work? Marriage is easy to get in but hard to get out. Be clear within yourself and find that love you once had.
If by some means you are being abused that’s always a flag to seek help. Quiet yourself and seek professional counseling to figure out your issues. Even if you and your husband go to couples therapy, personal counseling is always a great idea as well. I wish you and your husband well.
