This is definitely a first of hearing of such breaks in a marriage. I don’t know how that will roll over with your husband. I am sure you have your reasons so you will definitely need to lead the conversations with that. When I was dating my husband who of course was my boyfriend at the time, I remember wanting to take a break but it was more or less for religious reasons. As a Preachers Kid or PK I knew sex was wrong and figured this break would refocus us. He went along with it in the beginning but in the end I was the one who was like hey no I am good let’s start this up. For my daters, be open to your own sense of what works for you.
When you are married there are so many reasons why this wouldn’t be a good idea unless it’s for health reasons. I mean you’re married that is supposed to signal life time partner as well as lifetime sexual partner. However its your body and although some folks place the emphasis on women’s bodies belonging to their husband I do not believe in it UNLESS its belonging to both. Meaning as a woman I should be able to call on sex and request it and get it within reason too and let’s face it, it doesn’t always work out that way in most homes.
Your body and your reasonings will be all you need to talk to your husband. What he may be okay with may not work for all but that won’t matter. I would say don’t go to talk to your husband with the sex break and make it for some unrealistic amount of time. Men are physical beings and that won’t fly. If you felt the need for sex breaks this should be something that both he and you are okay with. If not you will come off to him as someone who wants to control using one of the biggest methods of control that a large amount of women use and that’s sex. I know women who withhold sex not because of issues but as a way to get their husbands to do whatever it is they want. Husbands aren’t kids. If you want a good marriage you need to have open communication and withholding sex signals immaturity to communicate effectively. However you are a team and if a member of the team needs something it should be heard and validated. There are a lot of sexless relationships that I would say work but only usually for the one that made it that way. Relationships are give and take and so you must be willing to hear his side of how he feels about this too. Do not get upset when he’s not on board. I as a woman wouldn’t be but that’s just me. Allow him time to process it.
You and only you know why, you should deal with your why first because it could be that the sex is a physical sign of something emotional going on. Dealing with the cause is a better fix to what is going on inside of you. Explore your why a little further. You may want to do this before speaking to him.
