Well relationships can be a beautiful thing especially when it’s new love. To sabotage it as you have said just means you have at one point gotten caught up and most likely forgotten yourself. Here are my tips to keep a balance in love.
Communication
In order to not mess up new love you have to be able to talk. Communication is not as easy as people make it. However if you don’t open up it can be the very thing to end it. Communication isn’t about just talking but just as much about hearing and listening. Yes when your mate talks – listen. Hearing what your mate’s needs are is important.
Hobbies and activities
You know those things you once did before you got in a relationship you need to continue to do. The same way you hung out with your friends you should continue. Will you have to cut back at times during the various stages of relationship yes but to cut it off altogether isn’t healthy.
One thing that can irritate new love is getting too clingy too fast. Remember what you were doing and the life you had is what drew your new love to you. If you enjoyed your cake baking class then continue. You don’t have to give a person every inch of your time. You will be just as attractive being able to come together afterwards. It also will give you something to talk about and draw from.
Me time
Sometimes you just need to have time to veg out. Having some me time where you aren’t in your new mate’s face or hanging out with friends is key as well. Maybe you just want to catch up on your shows, sleep, play a game, or grab a movie without having to share popcorn. Whatever you enjoy nothing balances you more than having a moment to breath.
Couple action
Yes hanging out with other couples is just as healthy. When you are around other couples you get to see how they interact with each other. It’s good to see couples in action. Also going out let’s say bowling makes for even more fun and makes it an interesting time. Try to go out with another couple you admire.
Date nights
Yes sometimes in relationships you can sabotage cause you spend so much time together that going out to eat is no longer special. Spice it up. Take each other out on some dates that have meaning. Instead of dinner and a movie how about time at a local fair since your mate used to eat funnel cake when they were younger. Maybe a trip to the zoo just because your mate loves animals. Whatever the outing and whatever the price point always keep your mate in mind while planning.
After you have communicated your needs and listened to your mate, continued your own activities, hung out with another amazing couple, had some me time and went on a special date just do one more thing……
Stop over analyzing every little detail. Yes when you allow your mind to wonder about everything you bring in the one thing you don’t want and that’s unnecessary stress. Relationships should be work in that you balance things out but light that you can be doing nothing at all and enjoying your mate’s company.
Enjoy your relationship. Work on you and don’t put more stock on it than you put on yourself.
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