This is a very sensitive subject. Often times women and men can lose their way when it comes to keeping the spark lit. One of the things to keep in mind is to look at what may have happened that has your baby not being what you want them or expected them to be. Has there been a lost of any sort? What about changes in atmosphere? These are things to consider.
One thing to do is communicate. Long gone are the days when a mate, a boo thing, your love, your bae is supposed to just know. That isn’t fair. Things change and if you are in the middle of a miscommunication the best way is to get on track with realistic expectations. This means what do you want? Be clear but also be prepared to give. You may find that you have stopped in an area(s) as well. While you are focusing on what you aren’t being given it may be that you too got some giving to do as well.
Talk about it. Tell them what you need. Don’t use words like you fell off, you aint, you suck, I can’t stand… This should be understood but trust me when I say that there are folks doing the most and it’s so super true. Be careful what you say and how you say it. Then get to the root of the problem. If your bae is really a good bae and you approach it right you both can come from this with a sense of renewed love. Love is beautiful and it can give those lovey dovey feelings that everyone has told themselves is supposed to happen but if you aren’t careful you will forget how much work it takes to get the light of love burning.
So whatever you were doing for your bae, keep doing. Dinners, do them. Flowers, do them. Date night monthly, do it. Also be the change you want to see. Encourage your partner to be the best version of themselves by you doing the same. A solid individual that feels like they got their act together personally can contribute to the “we” part of their life too. So get back on track by using tact and work through together. Also be sure that you and your bae physical, emotional and especially mental needs are being met. This doesn’t mean that they need to be met by you. The idea that we need to put on or perform for our mate has to be dispelled. I read a comment where a young lady asked for others to pray for her that her boyfriend will keep liking her and accept her. Although I believe in the power of prayer, your boo to continue liking you is a bit much. Relationships do change. However someone having to be prayed to accept is not the will. Acceptance should be how you and your bae got together. This is why I never encourage men or women to change themselves for their mate. This will create something for your loved one that isn’t going to be kept up because it may go against the very core of who you are. It’s like wearing heels everyday trying to kill yourself when you are a real sneaker girl is crazy. However sliding your pretty feet in a pair of heels every now and again and especially on date nights is a better compromise.
