There’s no easy way but to be honest. You really can’t slow roll this type of betrayal.
Women have this notion that men don’t have feelings but that’s not true. Men put themselves out for the ones they love so this betrayal is going to hurt. You have no choice but to tell him as bad as this is, hearing it from someonelse will be gut wrenching.
Are you done with the affair or is being caught or told on your motivation? I ask so you can really work through this. Please don’t confess and then continue it and make it appear you want to reconcile. Be honest all the way through.
Be prepared for him to ask questions. He’s going to be mad and the worst thing you can tell someone is it don’t matter with who, that’s my business, I don’t owe you that – nope avoid these phrases. If you were okay lying down with another man and breaking your covenant than be just as big to come clean.
I really wish you well and honestly your future will be forever changed. Just a few things to keep in the back of your mind is that he may not forgive you. Don’t go into this thinking of all kinds of scenarios. Trust me it could go left at any moment. Give your husband what he needs to process this. If he asks you for space let him have it. You aren’t in control on how long he needs to get over it.
My last suggestion is for you, please know I do not judge you – it’s not my place. My thoughts are with you cause to tell him will be hard. Please figure out why you did it. Women generally cheat out of emotion or feelings of lack and then lastly opportunity presented itself. Figure it out. Figure out what you need and want and get it. It may not come from your husband and he may decide to end the marriage. You should get counseling whether by a professional or by a trusted clergy.
You and your husband are in my thoughts.
